Ruth & Rita
My numerous conversations with the Bride, Ruth and extensive research on being a good Maid of Honor have lead me to narrow down THREE important points that will help an inexperience newbie like myself have a better understanding of MOH duties.
1. Personality Matters
Often it’s your personality that gets you the role of a MOH. A MOH should have and maintain a positive attitude, be enthusiastic and patient. Be an excellent listener and know when to make her laugh. “Yes” is your favourite word, unless it’s something that might ruin the wedding or her reputation. Otherwise, the word “no” should be out of your vocabulary. This is her wedding, doesn’t matter if the dress is not your style or the table linen is not in your favourite colour. What matters is that the bride is happy and you should be supportive of her choices. Think of yourself, as the bride’s significant other!
2. Trusty sidekick
Having fun with Ruth!
Be her trusty sidekick like Robin is to Batman. You are to assist with any pre-wedding tasks. You are her go-to person in times of trouble. Keep an agenda to record any important meetings or dates that you have to attend with the bride. Your goal is to help keep her stress level as low as possible. Be multifaceted and expect to play multiple roles, from counsellor to personal shopper to deliverer…etc.
3. MOH power
The Maid of Honor is an important role and holds great power. With great power comes great responsibility. Planning the bachelorette party and bridal shower can be hectic, therefore, you must learn to coordinate with the bridesmaids, assign tasks and manage and divide expenses when it’s necessary. Expect questions, lots of emails and phone calls!
Thumbs Up from Happy Bride Ruth
Bottom line is as a Maid of Honor, expect to get your hands dirty, ride and hold her hands through the emotional roller coaster and have a can- do attitude! How much work you put in as a MOH really depends on the bride. For a strong-minded bride like Ruth, she rarely needs my input or confirmation. Her mentality is that if she can decide on the little things herself such as a colour or a pattern, why bother to ask for help? I guess I can say that I got lucky?! (Thank you Ruth!) However, I should probably step my game up and be prepared for when she does need me! For the next 7 months, my goal is to be a top-notch Maid of Honor to one of my besties and to stick by her side, for better or for worse, even if she turns into a bridezilla!